Welcome. Everything said during this chat will be treated in the strictest confidence.<div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Hi there<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  How can I help?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Im really struggling with my gambling and i feel like i have no one to talk to <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Your in the right place. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. Gambling is so evil and destructive.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  What type of gambling have you been doing?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  I know, and mainly online casino :( <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Roulette?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Blackjack<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Dont like roulette lol<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Which part of Scotland are you from?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Dumfries and galloway <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  We have meetings all over Scotland I can see if there is a meeting near you. Do you have a postcode?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  I dont really want to go to a meeting tbh im so embarrassed about it <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  How do you see your life moving forward? I too was full of shame and felt stupid having wasted so muchtime and money but everyone in the room was so supportive.  They have all had to make that step of walking in the door.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  A local member would meet u before hand so your not going in alone if that helped. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  And talk through any questions you had. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  What kind of problems has gambling caused you?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  I dont even know its really effecting everything even my attitude to family :( and im really not ready for meetkngs and stuff jjst wanted someone to talk about it too sorry :( <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  And lots tbh :( money worries late bills arguments with my partner etc etc<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Sadly gambling affects every area of our life and it only gets worse.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Yep :(<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Can I ask what makes you feel unready for change<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  (Or a meeting)<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  I tried to do it on my own and failed.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  I want to change but i dont want to meet people atm :s <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  It took me over 20 years to come back to Ga<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  And my life was in shatters.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  I've been gambling free over a year now. I so wish I had stuck it out when I first came over 20 years ago <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Thats good but do you miss it? <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Do I miss the misery no way. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  :s sorry <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  People say try ga for 90 days if you don't like it have your misery back. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  I used to stay up All night gambking<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Me too :s <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Lost countless hours of sleep, so much money I could have bought my house 3 x over<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Not to mention the anxiety<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  The lies<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  The cover up. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  I still do somtimes, and my anxiety is through the roof <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Sos my stress levels too <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Your anxiety is through the roof, your stressed, money worries  arguments with partner.... and you don't want to meet people?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Not wanting to meet others is stopping you getting help or am I picking up wrong?<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Tbh no! Im so used to suffering it on my own its what im most comfortable with, i bottle everything up always have, iv tried to talk about it befpre and noone understands, i hate meeting new people :(<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  It seems the wish not to meet other who have similar issues is 'costing' you the chance to be in recovery.<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Maybe, i dont know tbh<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  Sounds like you feel misunderstood a lot,  that nobody can really understand, which makes you dread meeting new people... have you had a bad experience before. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  I can only talk from my experience ...<br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  But people in the room certainly understand. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  There are people from all different backgrounds at all stages of recovery with lots of wisdom to share <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Everyon3 iv tried to talk to about it just say just stop! Or it cant be that bad 🤷 or just take the piss i wouldnt be able to sit in a group and talk about it as i really dont like meeting people <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  It's hard to get that kind of understanding from people who have not suffered the same addiction. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Seems like it <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Mark B.</strong> :  I'm sorry your not ready to go to a meeting. I'm not sure what further help I can be tonight but please do get in touch when you feel more prepared to look at support and options for recovery. <br></div><div style='font-size:16px';><strong>Jurdy44</strong> :  Sorry feel like im just wasteing you time, im going to go but thanks for talking <br></div><div class='msgln'><span class='left-info'>User <b class='user-name-left'>Jurdy44</b> has left the chat session.</span><br></div><div class='msgln'><span class='left-info'>User <b class='user-name-left'>Jurdy44</b> has left the chat session.</span><br></div><br>== This Chat Has Been Closed ==<br>Press "Exit Chat" to return to homepage.